Comments on: A Marriage of Inconvenience

By: Shawn Wright

Shawn Wright — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 00:14:20 +0000

Yes, like Melissa said… There are on-going retreats with the “Strong Bonds” program. In fact my chaplain/husband and I are taking two groups this month. Seek these out if you are US Army and need a great weekend away that will bless your marraige and comunication. Also, I love the statement that the military has nothing to do with your marraige being healthy and happy… indeed, our marraiges are ordained and need be protected and nourished.

By: Melissa Kuhlman

Melissa Kuhlman — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 04:09:10 +0000

Sara,
I just wanted to let you and your readers who are Army families know about the Strong Bonds program. It is staffed by Chaplains/Assistants and is a weekend marriage retreat. I highly recommend attending one. I learned a useful communication technique and have been married to my Army husband for 22 years who is also a chaplain.:) The military pays for the room at a nice hotel nearby, travel and food for active duty and reservists. Check with your unit chaplain for information. The sessions also include discussion groups which I found extremely helpful. Melissa

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 02:55:59 +0000

Beautifully said. I once read The Power of a Praying Wife thinking I could “change” him…little did I realize the importance of changing MYSELF! I have been wanting to get The Love Dare for a while just to spice things up a bit! Your perspective is so refreshing and I’m glad that you’ve shared with us. My husband and I have also had our ups and downs, but overall have been blessed with a wonderful marriage. I am oftentimes reminded of the scripture that talks about the thief coming to steal and destroy. I am not sure of the context of this scripture, but I’ve always had my marriage in mind when I think about it. I’m usually “on guard” looking out for things in our lives that could get a foothold on our marriage and steal and destroy what God has intended for us to live out. I strongly believe that we need to live in such a way that we protect our marriages through praying together, reading scripture together as well as all of those little things that make a big difference. It’s not easy being married, but my husband is a true luxury of mine that I hold very dear!

By: Diane England, Ph.D., LCSW

Diane England, Ph.D., LCSW — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 16:12:04 +0000

I have never been a military wife. However, I did work with a number of them overseas at a base in northern Italy both before and after we got into the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq. I thought they had a challenging enough time of it under the best of circumstances–and I admired how well so many of them managed to keep the home fires burning while the military partner was deployed. I supposed it was because I had seen how hard it was anyway, combined with the fact I was old enough to have lived through the Vietnam era, that I was concerned about trying to help partners cope with a spouse who’d developed PTSD after being in the war zone. If this describes you or someone you know, please tell them about “The Post-Traumatic stress Disorder Relationship: How to Support Your Partner and Keep Your Relationship Healthy.” By the way, the “Library Journal” labeled it one of the “BEST BOOKS OF 2009″ so hopefully, more people will ultimately be helped by it than would have been otherwise. Also, my best wishes go out to all of you since so many are unaware of the challenges you face and the true sacrifices you and your children make. God Bless You!

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