Your Turn
Friday, August 1, 2014
whatcha-think
I LOVE talking with you – AND hearing what’s on your mind! I also love giving fun and beautiful things away. This is one of the new features on my website that I hope you’ll love – each month, come to my blog and answer a poll or question I’ve posed that will ALSO give you the chance to win a really fun or great gift! We’ll announce the winner on the last day of each month. Only the first 100 to respond within the month will be eligible. Can’t wait to hear from you!

THIS MONTH’S QUESTION:

CandlesWhat’s hard about forgiveness?
Submit your answer here.
This month’s giveaway is a set of handcrafted  candles!

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Does Our External Reflect Our Internal?

At the end of the book of Jeremiah, we read of a heartbreaking moment… the kings of Judah continued to do evil in the sight of God and we’re told in Jeremiah 52:3, that “Because of the Lord’s anger, it came to the point in Jerusalem and Judah that He finally banished them from His presence.” Can you imagine what it must have felt like to be without God’s presence? To hear silence? To feel nothing of His love, His protection, His thoughts or His instruction? As you might imagine, life quickly morphed into chaos, and the city of Jerusalem was soon under siege by Babylon’s army. For TWO YEARS, they were surrounded, with no way to escape. Nothing toContinue Reading

The Wisdom We Gain When We Notice
Monday, August 4, 2014

The Wisdom We Gain When We Notice

Psalm 90:12 ~ “Teach us to number our days carefully so that we may develop wisdom in our hearts.” We are so tempted to move our lives along some days, aren’t we? Especially when the season of life we’re in isn’t where we want to be, or isn’t as exciting, or as rewarding, or it’s a season just so filled with conflict or challenge that we look to a new challenge-free season door to open? But can I share something with you that I’m learning? Wisdom never develops from coasting downhill, like when we were kids on our bikes – we tend to focus on the breeze, and what we’re passing often ends up in a blur in our peripheral.Continue Reading

Dealing with the uncomfortable
Saturday, May 24, 2014

Dealing with the uncomfortable

This is Lucy. Lucy is our second schnauzer who we adopted about a year ago. She is ORNERY! (If you don’t speak southern, that means she’s a mess! Always getting into trouble!) She’s also a walking set of illustrations for life, and I’ll share one of those stories in my new book coming uot this fall, How Can I Possibly Forgive? Rescuing Your Heart from Resentment and Regret. This is Lucy’s bed that came with her and is a whole lot smaller than she is now, but she LOVES it. It’s her spot, her safe place, where she goes when she wants to be comfortable despite the fact she’s technically outgrown it. Every time I see her in it, I take aContinue Reading

When Your Kid’s Name Isn’t Called
Tuesday, May 20, 2014

When Your Kid’s Name Isn’t Called

So the other day I did something exceptionally brave. Or maybe, in hindsight, really dumb. I went to my son’s 7th grade awards program. Now – no one told me to go to his awards program. I didn’t get a note, or a text, or an email from one of his teachers or his principals suggesting I might come. (Though my friend Karim, whose son Carlos is super smart, didn’t either, and she went. So there’s a little reasoning for you that I wasn’t completely crazy.) I almost texted a teacher friend to ask if I should go, but if I’m being honest, I was actually afraid of what she might say. So, no, no one told me to go to the awards programContinue Reading

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Remember.

It’s late in the day and you have just been through one of the most harrowing life-tumbling roller coaster rides you’ve ever experienced. You’re exhausted. Your body hurts, your head aches, your emotions feel as fragile as handmade paper. You just want to curl up and shut the world away for a few hours of uninterrupted sleep but worry keeps you from doing so. You have to keep moving. You have to keep going. The last several weeks have been tough, and you’re not sure when true relief will really be in sight. The uncertainty of what’s ahead is overwhelming sometimes to handle and you wonder what’s going to happen to you and your family. But right now, the thingContinue Reading

Dear Spiritually Abusive Husband
Friday, February 14, 2014

Dear Spiritually Abusive Husband

Dear Spiritually Abusive Husband, I don’t know you, but your wife emailed me today looking for help and advice. Apparently, you travel a lot and when you do, you spend a lot of time at night on your computer, looking at porn. She’s not sure, probably because she doesn’t want to think or admit to herself that it could really be that bad, but she suspects your addiction hasn’t stopped at just the computer screen. You’ve told her you don’t think this is wrong, though you’ll flat out deny that you do it if anyone asks. Except for your wife who found out by accident. Computer technology makes it pretty hard to hide anything these days, by the way. Since youContinue Reading

When God Takes You a Different Way
Wednesday, February 5, 2014

When God Takes You a Different Way

Someone asked me today what my degree was in. “BA? BS?” They were a little surprised when I smiled and said “BM”. Yes, I am the proud owner of a Bachelor’s of Music degree from Union University with an emphasis in comm arts. My instrument was voice. At the end of my senior year in high school, I used all my graduation money to record a demo of two songs I wrote. I attended college on voice scholarships. Sang in all of the special audition-only groups. I had big dreams. One of those dreams was to go to Nashville to sing Christian music but God had different plans. He took me there a few years later to write instead. I’mContinue Reading

20 Ways to Lead Your Wife
Monday, January 20, 2014

20 Ways to Lead Your Wife

When I went through my Proverbs 31 experiment a few years ago, I remember reading the P31 passage and asking out loud one day on Facebook, tongue firmly planted in cheek, where the husband’s 21-verse list was. One of my friends, Dan, brought up Ephesians 5, where men are called to love their wives as Christ loves the church. At the time, in the cynical sarcastic season of life that I was, I was more than a little dubious. “That’s great,” I wrote in my book My So-Called Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife. “Men, you love your wives, but wives, you get to cookin’.” I’ve come to know differently now. To love someone the way Christ loved the churchContinue Reading

50 Ways to Follow Your Husband
Monday, January 20, 2014

50 Ways to Follow Your Husband

When you look at Ephesians 5, the word “submit” that is used in verse 22 is the same meaning as the word that’s used in verse 21 – hupotasso – “to put or place under in rank; to obey.” Philippians 2:3 tells us to “Do nothing out of rivalry  or conceit,  but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves.” If you remember, after that famous incident in the garden, God tells Eve in Genesis that He will “intensify your labor pains; you will bear children in anguish. Your desire will be for your husband, yet he will rule over you.” The words obey and rule over don’t sit very well, do they? I’m kind of wishing Eve hadn’t been soContinue Reading

If He Leads, Will You Follow?
Friday, January 17, 2014

If He Leads, Will You Follow?

I remember the first time my husband and I danced, a couple of years into our married life together.   The music played, our hearts were full, our feet…not so light. Ouch. “Sorry.” Another step. Awkward shuffle. And pivot to avoid crushing toes… “Oops!” I giggled, laughing more at myself than him. Step. He went left and I went right. That’s when Cliff stepped back and looked at me. “Are you going to let me lead?” That question from my husband has echoed in my mind often through various seasons of our marriage. In the last 15 years, we’ve made too many decisions together to count. Job changes. Big purchases like a house or a car. Little decisions like where to hangContinue Reading