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5 Reasons Women Quit Small Groups Too Soon

If you’ve ever led a Bible study or a small group in your church or in your home, you probably know what I’m talking about. And if you’ve ever participated in a Bible study or a small group someone else has led, there’s a good chance you’ve done this, or you know of others who…

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3 Important Ways for How to be Content In Married Life

How to Add More Contentment to Your Marriage

Do you remember how you felt on your wedding day? How excited you were? How many butterflies you had in your stomach? How you just could not stop smiling? Did everything go perfectly? Did it all feel perfect, even if it wasn’t? At our wedding, the ceremony itself went off without any problems. That is, as long as…

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13 years after 9/11, a note to my 13-year-old son

Dear Caleb, This morning you came into our kitchen and gave me a hug, your arms easily reaching over my shoulders now that you’re a good 4 inches taller than I am. As you sat down for breakfast at the counter, you mentioned some of the pictures your friends were posting on Instagram about 9/11 and how…

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What’s God Asking That You’re Avoiding?

We ended our discussion last Wednesday night at church with this question, which is still on my mind this morning, probably because it relates to another book I just finished, The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst. “What divinely given responsibilities are you neglecting because you’re too busy controlling responsibilities God hasn’t called you to?” When we…

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When Your Kid’s Name Isn’t Called

So the other day I did something exceptionally brave. Or maybe, in hindsight, really dumb. I went to my son’s 7th grade awards program. Now – no one told me to go to his awards program. I didn’t get a note, or a text, or an email from one of his teachers or his principals…

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Dear Spiritually Abusive Husband

Dear Spiritually Abusive Husband, I don’t know you, but your wife emailed me today looking for help and advice. Apparently, you travel a lot and when you do, you spend a lot of time at night on your computer, looking at porn. She’s not sure, probably because she doesn’t want to think or admit to…

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20 Ways to Lead Your Wife

When I went through my Proverbs 31 experiment a few years ago, I remember reading the P31 passage and asking out loud one day on Facebook, tongue firmly planted in cheek, where the husband’s 21-verse list was. One of my friends, Dan, brought up Ephesians 5, where men are called to love their wives as…

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50 Ways to Follow Your Husband

Maybe “obey” isn’t your word choice when you think about you relationship with your husband. But can you “support” him? Don’t you do that, anyway? When you look at Ephesians 5, the word “submit” that is used in verse 22 is the same meaning as the word that’s used in verse 21 – hupotasso – “to…

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Why Our Marriage isn’t 50/50

I’m not interested in a 50/50 marriage. Why? I don’t think they work. Since I went through this experiment, I continue to hear from a lot of women, many who struggle with the idea of biblical submission we find in Ephesians 5, and one question is almost always asked: “Why should I do what I’m…

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When Your Husband’s a Jerk

Sure, it’s easy to be biblically submissive when your husband’s in the Nice Guy category. But what if he’s just mean? Or ornery? Or annoying? Or super strict? And he’s nothing like me? And well, on some days he’s a lot more like the spawn of Satan himself?      This is a question (in…

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